South African female authors share their journeys

first_img18 August 2016Trapped. A strong woman’s triumph over abuse is Capetonian Sam Scarborough’s diary, now published as a book. Her story – a confident and financially secure woman stuck is an emotionally abusive relationship – is meant to give hope to other women trapped in the same situation.Her diary, a despairing attempt to remain sane, tells the story of her moving toLondon with her daughter to be with her new partner. It chronicles how her lovestory, “suddenly changed and how she started to doubt herself, because accordingto him, everything was her fault”.Harrowing as her journey is, the book ends on a high note: “The good news isthat she got out of the toxic relationship – and so can you.”The abuseEmotional abuse is difficult to define, Scarborough says. Now, given herexperience, she understands what verbal abuse is. “There were words said to me,even if they were later denied. It was something concrete to hang on to, especiallybecause I wrote those words down in my diary.”Despite a mountain of research, it remains a difficult form of manipulation topinpoint. Unlike physical abuse, which leaves bruises and scars, the damage ispsychological. The pain more difficult for others to understand. “I certainly knowwhat it felt like for me, which is detailed in the diary I wrote, which became thebook.”Her writing processWriting a book about her personal experience was not easy. “It was frustrating,painful and hard to relive what I had gone through,” says Scarborough.The difficulty for Scarborough was to remain true and not glamourise theabuse. Exposing the worst of her life experience was also extraordinarily painful. “Ittook me a few months to write the actual book in the end. I wrote most nights afterwork, late into the night, transcribing all my notes and entries.“It was like reliving a nightmare. The patterns and cycles became boring, evento me. I was so frustrated with my own diary entries that I almost gave up onfinishing the book. I didn’t like the way I sounded, the way I acted, or the things Iwas saying – some parts actually made me cringe.“But, I decided to leave it all in, as that was my truth of what I went through,and there didn’t seem much point in glamourising it, or taking out the harduncomfortable parts.” Writing about her personal experience was difficult, says SamScarborough. (Image: NB Publishers)Being in a bad relationshipHer relationship, and her writing journey gave her a new perspective on thechoices people make in their relationships. “In the past I used to be extremelyfrustrated with friends who were in bad relationships, either of abuse, orrelationships that brought out the worst in them.“I just could not understand why my friends would not leave or could not leave.I had no idea what it was like to be in a bad relationship.”She says she had very little empathy for these friends of hers. “I eventuallyjust gave up on them.“I would like to think I will be a better friend now with a lot more understanding.I told my story to help others, not because I wanted to tell the story. And if this book can help just one person to free themselves, then I am glad it was published.”Returning to Cape TownScarborough says she would have loved to stay in London. “I have lived therebefore and still have loads of friends there.“But it wasn’t possible at the time. Coming back to South Africa was hard. Itfelt like a failure,” she confesses. “My apartment was rented out and we [she andher daughter] had nowhere to live. It was however the best decision I made, to putdistance between me and the situation I had got myselfinto.“It was a good break, something final. The decision to get on that plane andleave was not easy, as I was being promised the world, but it definitely got me outof the downward spiral I was in.”Scarborough, a graphic designer, art- and creative director, is also the author ofseveral children’s décor books like Children’s Rooms, CoolSpaces for Kids and Creative Rooms for Your Kids.Her book Trapped was recently published by NB Publishers.Simbongile MenteSimbongile Mente started writing Africa’s Daughters late in 2012.Three years later her book documenting the stories of women she mentored wascomplete. The women Mente wrote about are from the township Kayamandi in theStellenbosch area. Student pastor Mente launched her book last September at herchurch, the Apostolic Faith Mission of South Africa.The book explores the lives of 12 women, including herself. “I address issues like modern day slavery, molestation, low self-esteem, and your identity as a woman.”There are women like Thembi, the oldest of four sisters, who lost her motherwhile she was in high school.“Thembi’s father couldn’t afford to pay for all of their fees. She ended updropping out of school in grade 10. She took on two jobs to help her dad butthrough all of that she was disciplined. Thembi didn’t give up on her dreams andwent back to school. She is now studying nursing, just as her mother did,” explainsMente. Simbongile Mente documents the lives of 11 women and how theyovercame their challenging situations. (Image: Trudy van Rooy)The book’s titleMente says she wrote Africa’s Daughters to bring hope and encouragement to women in Africa and all over the world. “I decided on the title Africa’s Daughters because I was working with African women – engaging, empowering and mentoring African women. I was getting a personal look on their everyday lives.”She says publishing these kinds of stories raises awareness of the struggles ofwomen and, she hopes, to give the next generation a roadmap to avoid the samehazards. “It is important to inform our people so that they can be better equipped incommunicating these issues to their families. Families make up communities.“Africa’s Daughters’ message is one of hope where tragic situations can be turned into a message of light and transformation to this nation and Africa,” she advocates.More about MenteMente has a B. Tech degree in Public Relations and a BA degree in Theology.She started to write in high school to deal with her own low self-esteem anddepression. She started writing a journal filled with thoughts and emotions whichlater developed into poetry.Her friend Trudy van Rooy submitted one of her poems, All hope is gonefrom her, to a writing competition initiated by Africa’s Institute. “I was oneof the semi-finalists and my poem was featured in their book VenturingVistas,” says Mente. “I never stopped writing. I wrote poems and letters toGod, and still do during my meditation time.”Would you like to use this article in your publication or on your website?See Using materiallast_img read more

SA gets third 24-hours news channel

first_img22 August 2013 South Africa’s third 24-hour news channel, Africa News Network 7 (ANN7), went live on DStv channel 405 on Wednesday. This follows the launch of the South African Broadcasting Corporation’s (SABC’s) own 24-hour news channel on DStv channel 404 earlier this month. DStv, Multichoice’s multi-channel African digital satellite service, also hosts etv’s eNCA, CNBC Africa and BDTV. ANN7, which is funded by the Infinity Media consortium, was launched by The New Age Media in Sandton. The new station, boasting a strong complement of 150 journalists, is headquartered at Midrand, Johannesburg. The channel’s presenters include former cabinet spokesperson Jimmy Manyi, who will host a weekly talk show “Straight Talk”, and businesswoman Gerry Rantseli-Elsdon, who will host “Vuka Africa”. Kwaito artist Arthur Mafokate will host a weekly sport show called “Hola Weekend”. According to a media statement on the news channel’s website, it will focus on “constructive, nation-building stories in the interests of building a culture of unity and pride in South Africa”. ANN7 editor-in-chief Moegsien Williams told Business Day that the channel was ready “to bring the story as it happens with depth and perspective. “We want to bring a balanced discourse from all from all sides of the story, expose corruption and maladministration where we find it, and highlight stories that affect the ordinary man,” Williams said. The government has welcomed the channel as a boost for media diversity in South Africa. Phumla Williams, the acting CEO of the Government Communication and Information System (GCIS), said it would “contribute immensely to South Africa’s dynamic media industry,” providing a platform for further shaping public discourse on pertinent matters., with additional reporting by SAinfolast_img read more

Roach doesn’t mind who Pacquiao faces next

first_imgTallo returns with a bang Photo by Tristan Tamayo/INQUIRER.netLegendary boxing trainer Freddie Roach said Thursday he doesn’t give a single thought on whoever Manny Pacquiao fights next after the iconic Filipino boxer faces Australian Jeff Horn.Pacquiao (59-6-2) is set to defend his WBO welterweight belt against the undefeated Horn (16-0-1) in Australia on July 2, but Roach believes his student still has something left in his tank.ADVERTISEMENT Every 18 seconds someone is diagnosed with HIV Pagasa: Storm intensifies as it nears PAR Cayetano dares Lacson, Drilon to take lie-detector test: Wala akong kinita sa SEA Games Lacson: SEA Games fund put in foundation like ‘Napoles case’ BREAKING: Cop killed, 11 hurt in Misamis Oriental grenade blast BSP survey: PH banks see bright horizon amid dark global recession clouds BREAKING: Cop killed, 11 hurt in Misamis Oriental grenade blast Palace: Duterte to hear out security execs on alleged China control of NGCPcenter_img View comments MOST READ LATEST STORIES Roach, however, doesn’t see Crawford as a potential opponent for Pacquiao who now operates as a welterweight.READ: Roach open to Pacquiao fighting McGregor in a boxing matchKeith Thurman, who holds the WBA and WBC Super World welterweight belts, is also a potential challenger for Pacquiao.A fight between Pacquiao and Thurman would see the three belts unified, but Roach did not delve into the matter.“My job is not to get him opponents, my job is to get him ready for the opponents,” said Roach.ADVERTISEMENT Roach added it’s not his responsibility on who Pacquiao faces next.READ: Roach unbothered by Pacquiao’s sluggish starts in sparringFEATURED STORIESSPORTSSEA Games: Biñan football stadium stands out in preparedness, completionSPORTSMalditas save PH from shutoutSPORTSPrivate companies step in to help SEA Games hosting“Whoever Bob Arum gets, whoever he gets I am ready for him,” said Roach during Pacquiao’s training session at Elorde Gym in the Mall of Asia Complex.Terence Crawford, the reigning WBC, WBO, and The Ring super lightweight champion, once challenged Pacquiao after scoring a 10th round TKO victory over Felix Diaz. Sports Related Videospowered by AdSparcRead Next Don’t miss out on the latest news and information. Trending Articles PLAY LIST 00:50Trending Articles00:50Trending Articles00:44Manny Pacquiao on Floyd Mayweather: Let him enjoy retirement02:49Robredo: True leaders perform well despite having ‘uninspiring’ boss02:42PH underwater hockey team aims to make waves in SEA Games01:44Philippines marks anniversary of massacre with calls for justice01:19Fire erupts in Barangay Tatalon in Quezon City01:07Trump talks impeachment while meeting NCAA athletes02:49World-class track facilities installed at NCC for SEA Gameslast_img read more